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Here is part two of my dating blog

After much deliberation I felt I aught to extend my blog regarding dating.

I was shocked and also happy to have some amazing feedback on the first dating blog.

I thought for sure that it would be women that would connect with me after but it was men.

Men I had dated in the past or men who had been dating and wanted to let me know they felt just like me.

This was very refreshing and welcomed.

I wanted to add something though, something important.

When you reach a certain age mum says you should have either been married or had children.

If people have had neither there is an issue.

Hailing from parents who have both remarried more than once I have grown to want to marry once and that is that.

Okay, I will get to it.

Dating someone with children

My thoughts are don't or be very careful.

Take time to really get to know this person.

Why?

It's nice if they are on good terms, of course.

But not in each others pockets.

We don't want the wife around the table do we?

Make sure he or she is not bitter about their x.

Remember what they say about them they will say about you.

Parents of course put their children first, that is a given but parents that use that phrase more than once use it as a weapon.

Like an abusive tool to make you feel lesser and down right second class.

I can say hand on heart I never used those words I always had very nice people around me who cared for both my son and me.

Then there are parents who thrive on trying to out do the other parent.

Going to extreme lengths to try to make their child happy to make the child favour them.

This is abusive, not only abusive it's manipulating and controlling.

***RED FLAGS***

Remember red flags are huge signs that things are not right.

These people have severe personality defects which flow into every day life.

Introducing children

Always make sure you know the person you are dating before you introduce your child or meets someone else's child.

Children are innocent they are not toys for adults to play with.

Use as a pawn and play with.

Children remember these things, they grow and it effects them.

Be mindful of all peoples feelings and not just your own.

The time is right when it is right, but remember know the person first.

Learn about them children have no place on dates with adults.

There are many good people out there who are parents who are looking to date.

Things take time, if you have to wait two weeks to see each other so be it that's how it is!

Dating a mummy or daddy means they are a package it can be tough, take longer and they can not always be there for you.

To round it up, dating is a mixed bag.

Be careful, don't trust so fast. Take time and look for any signs of bad traits.